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Three signs of being born again

December 1, 2017 | Aaron Armstrong

Freely-Hand Outstretched Today’s post is adapted from A Christmas Question by Charles Spurgeon, which is now available as a free eBook from The Gospel Project. Get your free your copy here.
If this child who now lies before the eyes of your faith, wrapped in swaddling clothes in Bethlehem’s manger, is born to you, then you are born again! If any man tells me that Christ is his Redeemer, although he has never experienced regeneration, that man utters what he does not know; his religion is vain, and his hope is a delusion. Only those who are born again can claim the babe in Bethlehem as being theirs. “But,” says one, “how am I to know whether I am born again or not?”

An Inward Renewal

Answer this question also by another:
  • Has there been a change effected by divine grace within you?
  • Are your loves the very opposite of what they were?
  • Do you now hate the vain things you once admired, and do you seek after that precious pearl which you at one time despised?
  • Is your heart thoroughly renewed in its object?
  • Can you say that the bent of your desire is changed?
  • That your face is Zionward, and your feet set upon the path of grace?
  • That where your heart once longed for deep draughts of sin, it now longs to be holy?
  • Where you once loved the pleasures of the world, they have now become as draff and dross to you, for you only love the pleasures of heavenly things, and are longing to enjoy more of them on earth, that you may be prepared to enjoy a fullness of them hereafter?
Are you renewed within? The new birth does not consist in washing the outside of the cup and platter, but in cleansing the inner man. It is all in vain to put up the stone upon the sepulcher, wash it extremely white, and garnish it with the flowers of the season; the sepulcher itself must be cleansed. The dead man’s bones that lie in that charnel house of the human heart must be cleansed away. No, they must be made to live. The heart must no longer be a tomb of death, but a temple of life. Is it so with you? For recollect, you may be very different in the outward, but if you are not changed in the inward, this child is not born to you.

An Outward Transformation

Although the main matter of regeneration lies within, yet it manifests itself without. Say, then, has there been a change in you in the exterior? Do you think that others who look at you would be compelled to say, “This man is not what he used to be?”
  • Do not your companions observe a change?
  • Have they not laughed at you for what they think to be your hypocrisy, your prudishness, or your sternness?
  • If an angel should follow you into your secret life, should track you to your closet and see you on your knees, do you think that he would detect something in you that he could never have seen before?
For, mark, my dear hearer, there must be a change in the outward life, or else there is no change within. In vain you bring me to the tree, and say that the tree’s nature is changed. If I still see it bringing forth wild grapes, it is a wild vine still. And if I mark upon you the apples of Sodom and the grapes of Gomorrah you are still a tree accursed and doomed, notwithstanding all your fancied experience. The proof of the Christian is in the living. To other men, the proof of our conversion is not what you feel, but what you do. To yourself your feelings may be good enough evidence, but to the minister and others who judge of you, the outward walk is the main guide. At the same time, let me observe that a man’s outward life may be very much like that of a Christian, and yet there may be no religion in him at all. Have you ever seen two jugglers in the street with swords, pretending to fight with one another? See how they cut, and slash, and hack at one another, till you are half afraid there will soon be murder done. They seem to be so very much in earnest that you are half in the mind to call in the police to part them. See with what violence that one has aimed a terrific blow at the other one’s head, which his comrade dexterously warded off by keeping a well-timed guard. Just watch them a minute, and you will see that all these cuts and thrusts come in a prearranged order. There is no heart in the fighting after all. They do not fight so roughly as they would if they were real enemies.

A New Root and Principle of Your Life

If you have been born again, not only is your inward self altered, and your outward self too, but the very root and principle of your life must become totally new. When we are in sin we live to self, but when we are renewed we live to God. While we are unregenerate, our principle is to seek our own pleasure, our own advancement. But that man is not truly born again who does not live with a far different aim from this. Change a man’s principles, and you change his feelings. You change his actions. Now, grace changes the principles of man. It lays the axe at the root of the tree. It does not saw away at some big limb, it does not try to alter the sap, but it gives a new root and plants us in fresh soil. The man’s inmost self, the deep rocks of his principles upon which the topsoil of his actions rest, the soul of his manhood is thoroughly changed, and he is a new creature in Christ.

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About Aaron Armstrong

Aaron Armstrong is the author of several books including Epic: The Story that Changed the World, Awaiting a Savior, and the screenwriter of the documentary Luther: the Life and Legacy of the German Reformer. From August 2016 until September 2021, Aaron was the Brand Manager of The Gospel Project and publishing team leader for The Gospel Project for Adults. Follow him on Twitter.

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  1. Deacon Ralph D. Parks says

    December 15, 2017 at 10:39 am

    Hi Aaron….
    Enjoyed the blog. Would it be possible for me to use it, for my Men’s Ministry group I teach here in the DC area. It’s just a small group of about 5 -10 men.
    Thanks
    Ralph

    • Aaron Armstrong says

      December 15, 2017 at 10:43 am

      Of course!

  2. Madison says

    December 6, 2018 at 9:08 am

    Hello Aaron!

    I love this blog post, and I was wondering; I truly believe I’m born again, but is it normal that I still mess up from time to time? I struggle with anger issues and give in to getting angry without any thought. The Holy Spirit convicts me when I’ve done something wrong, but is it normal that born again believers can still struggle with certain things such as anger and outbursts? I’ve asked God to lead me to be slow to anger and quick to love, but I still mess up and get ugly with people without even noticing sometimes.

    Thanks,
    Madison S.

    • Aaron Armstrong says

      December 6, 2018 at 11:59 am

      Hi Madison, it is normal to continue to sin, even if after we have been born again. As fallen people living in a fallen world, we will never be fully free from the effects of sin (or the echoes of our previous enslavement to it), but we can expect to sin less as we strive to be more like Christ and God works in us (Phil 2:12). Keep praying that you would be sensitive to the Spirit’s conviction, and that He would help you see what prompts or triggers your moments of anger to help you turn from it.

  3. Spence Culpepper says

    September 5, 2019 at 12:52 pm

    Hello Aaron. It seems the scriptures are clear about the nature of man before encountering God being hell bent and full of evil. It also seems clear that regeneration radically shifts the entire mindset and heart motivation. Then, when I think about the very term “born again”, I naturally think about a very powerful and memorable experience where God infuses a man (or woman) with His Holy Spirit which opens that person’s eyes to the newness of life in Christ. My question then is this: how is it possible for people NOT to know when this event actually happened in their life? I’m not trying to be judgemental in my question. I’m geniunely trying to reconcile the scriptures which consistently show a memorable moment in the life of a believer when they encounter Jesus and many of today’s testimonies which mention they don’t remember a point in time where they met Jesus and who claim that they didn’t live an egregious lifestyle like others who have more pronounced testimonies have. Can you help me with this?

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